Healing yourself by becoming you, from the inside out
‘Me and My Shadow’ ©Kris Cahill 2023
There are as many ways to heal as there are human beings on this planet.
We have the power to heal ourselves, and we don’t have to do it all by ourselves. Only you can decide what is healing for you, and how healing looks for you.
When you heal yourself, others around you benefit as well. You’re not doing it for them, you’re doing it for you. You are the one who gets to choose to be on a healing path. Healing yourself means you’re taking responsibility for your own well being, instead of making it a problem for others to handle, or suffering in silence. You are no longer being a victim or martyr to whatever was making you feel sick or bad. You’re not finding distractions from doing your own work by controlling and over healing everyone around you, or punishing them because they’re happy and you’re not.
Self healing isn’t a one size fits all kind of thing, it’s unique to everyone. What is healing to one person might not appeal at all to another.
Health and healing begin within the spirit.
The only person who can choose to become you, is you. Becoming yourself in all your messy beautiful truth is healing, no matter what your life looks like to others. Let the judgers judge. You be you.
As you step up and take charge of yourself, including your feelings, dreams, desires, and truth, the things that no longer work start to fall away. Sometimes this means relationships change or end, especially if you were unable to fully express yourself in those relationships, or if your own self healing threatens others. Which is always funny to me, because it’s not about them, but some people will take it personally when you change.
You’re doing your work, and that is different from how I do it, or how your friend did, or your teacher or coach. Nobody else can tell you what you should do here. This is the freeing part of this path you are on. It’s also one of the hardest things you’ll do, especially if, like myself, you were deeply programmed to always think of everyone else and their needs, and to be responsible for all of it.
Sometimes doing your healing work means you need to speak your truth to yourself. Only then can you communicate it clearly to others.
There’s a direct connection between knowing who you are, and allowing yourself to be seen and heard as the you you want to be. How many of us have hidden parts of ourselves away because it didn’t feel safe to speak up? Perhaps we tried and others shamed or invalidated us, or didn’t hear us at all?
I used to hide myself like this, and I know how it feels. Happily, after many years of learning who I am, getting to know and love me, I’ve left behind the people who couldn’t listen or mirror, who wanted me to listen to them all of the time, but couldn’t really take the time or space to hear me. I am done with anyone who wants to dump their pain, and thinks that’s what I’m here for. The truth I had to learn for myself was that I was basing my value on how well I healed everyone else around me. I don’t do that anymore, so those old relationships crumbled, and I reset the ones I wanted to keep.
Those who don’t do their own work in one way or another are boring to me. I don’t care how they do it, but if someone will not take responsibility for their own mess, I’m out. People who aren’t thoughtful or kind also have no place in my life.
Speaking my truth, and letting go of those who dumped on me, or needed me to heal them or listen to them non-stop, is how I care for myself. It has paid off. Not needing to be seen as ‘nice’ has also paid off, well, nicely.
Have you given away your right to heal yourself?
The modern medical system’s view of healthcare is that health is a battlefield of sorts. Diseases are attacked, disorders seen as needing whatever drug or chemical is known to alleviate them. Antibiotics kill the bad stuff, but they kill off the good stuff too. How many commercials for drugs have you seen this week?
Don’t get me wrong, I am grateful to the antibiotics that have helped me in my life! I am not dissing science and medicine, I’m very grateful for it. I am, however, questioning the battle mentality of our modern medical system, especially the dismissal of other healing modalities that are about prevention, gentle healing, and are also less brutal and invasive than drugs and surgery. Chiropractic, which I will never do without again, has helped me more than I can say. Yet it is still feared by many, and seen by some people as quackery.
Entire generations of people have been programmed by the medical industrial complex to dismiss and fear many alternative healing modalities.
This is because many of these modalities don’t fit into the medical establishment’s worldview, which is that the doctors know everything, and they certainly know more than you do about your own body.
I heartily disagree with this. I know that if you want to be in charge of your own body, you can. By listening to your body, you will know what to do. This may include knowing who is the best doctor for you, which massage therapist is good for you, who you can trust with your health. You do this by listening to your body, and to your knowing, your intuition. This doesn’t mean you don’t ask others for referrals, or listen to a doctor whose expertise is helpful for your healing path. But if you can listen to yourself and advocate for yourself, you are taking responsibility for you.
If you treat yourself as a partner in your healing, it’s easier to find a doctor who will listen.
I know one thing that is NOT healing for many people is the emotionally disconnected profit based ‘healthcare’ system we have in the USA. Doctors are not to blame for this, by and large. The system is broken, insurance companies should be abolished, healthcare is a right that should be available for everyone, no matter their income.
This broken system is one big reason why many people have decided to reclaim their own spirit, and seek alternatives to allopathic medicine. In my dream world, allopathic doctors would work side by side with herbalists, chiropractors, acupuncturists, and energy healers. This already exists in some places, it is possible to combine healing modalities.
I am grateful to have had access to health care providers who do care, who have helped me. My rant about the system does not reflect on the many incredibly caring and skilled doctors and nurses, the true healers, that I have been fortunate to know. Those who offended me either heard from me directly, or never saw me again.
So many healing tools to choose from!
I have personally experienced healing from herbs, homeopathy, acupuncture, therapy, massage and bodywork, chiropractic, flower essences, tapping, walking and stretching, yoga. Meditation is amazing as a self healing tool. As a clairvoyant, I have seen and experienced the healing to be found in seeing energy, and moving what doesn’t work. Writing is another healing tool I practice. Making art makes me so happy, it’s such a healing for me every time.
My own specialty as a clairvoyant and healer is energy work, which includes clairvoyant readings and healings, and mediumship healings.
Taking a mental health day can be the best healing, especially if you listen to yourself and do it when you need it. Working in a garden, going for a walk, listening to music, taking a hot bath, crying and releasing, speaking your truth, talking it over with a friend, cuddling with your dog, hanging out with a loved one, dancing it out, organizing with like minded people to create positive change, getting angry because you are (instead of stuffing it because you were taught anger is bad). Rest is healing, and we don’t give ourselves nearly enough of it. I love my resting days, which include tea and a good book to read.
Emotional healing tools are necessary for us all. Letting go of limiting beliefs about yourself, releasing from your life the people, places, and situations that punish, demean, invalidate, or limit you. Choosing to pursue a passion, leave a toxic workplace, say no, have boundaries - all self healing.
Spiritual growth is the key here - once you grow within yourself, in the spirit of you, there’s no going back or fitting you into the too small box you might have been in before. You are healing yourself, and there’s nothing more powerful.
