When you decide it's time for you to be seen, you will be seen. Are you ready?

The act of deciding changes everything. You have chosen to take a step.

A clear decision to be seen will help you head confidently to the place where you get to decide again, and then make another decision after that. It depends on how you want to be seen.

You have the power to heal yourself.

Healing yourself happens when you consciously choose, every day, how you'll spend your own energy.

This includes making choices about how you treat your body, which foods you eat, how much stress you hold onto, and what kinds of relationships you have in your life.

Being human can feel really serious and challenging at times.

Sometimes you get stuck, people are unkind, life is hard, answers are few, choices are limited. You don't get to have fun and play.

It can seem as if no matter how hard you try, you can't see the bright side of the situation in front of you. Watching the news only makes it worse - it feels like everything is falling apart out there.

If you want to enjoy the celebration of life, you must show up in person.

It’s hard to enjoy yourself at a party when you don’t feel well, or are grappling with major issues in your life.

You don't feel like being the life of any party when you don't feel good. You don't want to be around people at all, much less a lot of them in a social situation. Your first inclination is to go home, crawl into your bed, and stay there until the storm passes.

There are many ways of being a healer, some of them conscious, and some not.

You can be the healer in your family, job, or group of friends, without being aware of your role.

What does this mean exactly? Well, you could be the peacemaker, or the one who keeps it together for the others. You might soak up everyone’s troubles, maybe you are the sounding board for your friends’ problems.

No, it’s not a new hit country song. It is how a lot of people see themselves, though unconsciously so.

As in, “well, I’m just going to go pick up that pain over there, drive it around, and see if I can find it a good home”. Pain makes things real for many people, it makes their bodies real.

Honoring someone else’s pain is seen as the right thing to do, and often people will honor pain for generations by carrying it on. Pain becomes more real than Wellness.

Grounding is a tool you can use to make yourself safe and relaxed.

Grounding yourself helps you to release anxiety, depression, stress, pain and fatigue. You can more easily let go of the past, make your body happy and calm, and give yourself the permission to create what you want.

If you want it to be real for you, you've got to find your validation from within yourself.

Validation is a spiritual vibration that affects you on every level, but especially in your emotions. You can feel validation from within.

Validation is not an intellectual energy. You can be validated for your intellect, but unless you are allowed to have the validation for yourself, you may try to prove your worth to others. This often turns into a never ending cycle of needing to 'prove' you have worth in order to have it.

Who had permission to get angry in your house when you were growing up?

Was it you, your mother or father, or someone else? Was anger accepted as a normal, natural human emotion? Or was it judged as being a negative and unsafe emotion?

It may be that only the women in your family were allowed to get angry, or only the men. There simply wasn’t room for anyone else ‘to express their feelings of annoyance, displeasure, or hostility’ – (Webster’s definition of anger).

What if you decide to forgive and let go? What if others do the same?

Simply by forgiving each other and especially our own selves, we go a long way to creating more trust in the world. Forgiveness is a big part of learning to trust.

If you forgive yourself, another person, or a group that hurt you, you free up your own energy and reclaim your power. This helps you regain trust for yourself, your choices, and life in general.

Perhaps you lost trust in yourself because you made a choice that wasn’t the best for you.

The parts of me I loved fiercely as a young girl were my certainty and strength.

At age 5 I was brave, with a fierce sense of right and wrong, and a natural love of myself.

I wouldn't allow any other kid to talk down to me or mistreat me. I owned who I was, and I protected those I cared for. I was respected and popular in my neighborhood.

This changed when I was 7; my family moved to a new neighborhood, and suddenly my old love of self was gone, replaced by a picture of myself as pretender.

As a psychic reader, I often look at the energy of having space.

Sometimes the person I’m reading has lost her or his space, given it up to something or someone else. Other energy has become more important in that person’s space than their own energy, needs, health, desires, dreams, or information.

This is a spiritual choice, and often an unconscious one. A psychic reading is a great place to say hello to this energy so that the person handling it can become conscious, and perhaps choose to let it go.

Currently many of us are working on where we have given up space to money and its ‘value’. When we give greater value to something outside of ourselves, we often undervalue the bountiful riches to be found within.