Who or what are you trying to control?
Trying to control is key here, because that’s all you can really do with most beings and situations, try to have control.
When it comes down to it, you have no control over anything outside of yourself. It’s not your job to control anyone, though you may have agreed to do so. When you are doing this to others, you are also in their space, ie: invading them. When you try to control the actions of another, or the outcome of a situation, you are in danger of losing your own energy, and of forgetting that you have much more of an effect on the situation by staying in your own space.
Many of us have controlled in order to feel safe.
On becoming a conscious healer
Many well meaning and compassionate people make the mistake of giving away their healing energy.
Some believe that being a healer means they have to give their healing energy to others. They unconsciously walk through their life healing everyone in sight. They feel responsible for healing or fixing all the pain they come across. They give away their own energy.
There is giving, and then there is giving away.